Friday, April 30, 2010

Spy vs Spy

Last night was wonderfully stress free. It started with K's baseball game. He is sure that he got at least 2 home runs. I didn't have the heart to tell him it was because he was the last batter so he gets to run the bases. He was so proud and I was not about to burst his bubble. I think he had the biggest cheering section at the game and we were a carefree loud bunch of people. We then decided to celebrate the "two home runs" with a trip to the ice cream place. It was delicious. K had a snickers sundae and I was lucky enough to sneak a few bites. But the real fun started once we returned home.
Gary had to get ready to go to work so he was outside getting the truck ready to go and K and I played outside in the hammock. Then we decided that it would be more fun to spy on Gary. So we slunk around the house so that he couldn't see us. Of course Gary had no idea what was going on or what we were doing which helped play into our game even better. We peeked around the side of the house, we hide behind the truck, we ran around the house at least 15 times trying to get the best view. We were having a great time. I finally got busted by Gary, but K was still out there spying. Well as all fun things do, it had to come to an end; we needed to get ready to go to bed so I had K get in the shower as I got his lunch ready for school. But when he got out of the shower, we both put on camouflage pajamas and continued our spy mission while Gary tried to get a little sleep on the coach. We laughed so hard we had to retreat to his bedroom as to not wake Gary.
It was such a good night. Something I truly needed. So thank you Kris for being the best son ever and making Mom laugh. Oh and K had horrible gas during the entire night, and I am pretty sure he thought it was laughing gas.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Misery loves company

It has been an emotionally draining week for me. I am looking forward to this weekend more than usual. I am hoping for a stress free couple of days to recharge and get back on track with things. Friday can't come fast enough. But as I am sitting at my desk thinking about all the turmoil of the past week a good friend and co-worker says to me, "you know it never gets better." Stunned I look at her and ask what she is talking about, just this morning she was positively drooling over how great her husband is, and now this.
It never gets better she says again. It is good and it is bad and I pretend alot, but it never gets better. Do you think that is really true? I hate to believe that, even for a second.
Is this really as good as it gets. I know that life, and love for that matter, are a roller coaster. So if you go down, don't you eventually have to go up again?
I am going to believe for my own sanity that it does get better. And if misery truly loves company perhaps the opposite is true as well that happiness is contagious.

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Idle hands are the Devils play ground or something like that....

Work is slow. I hate when that happens, the day drags and I can only do catch up work until it is done and then what? I finished all the little tasks on my desk, filed all my papers, shredded old paperwork and organized my files. And then I sat twiddling my thumbs, what to do now. So I sat at my desk and thought about yesterdays argument with my husband. I spent way too much time thinking about it, I composed a post about it, I posted it, I re-read it and then laughed out loud at how much of a drama queen I was being. I have since deleted the post. But just in case you are wondering the fight is over, the issue is somewhat resolved and we are no longer mad at each other. See too much time on your hands can be a problem.

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

A battle of wills

I am pretty sure I married an Ogre. Not like Shrek even, where he looks fierce but inside is a prince charming, but like a real live ogre. Minus the green hue of course. My husband is a prince charming sometimes, but when the sun goes down he can become unbearable. He has a job that he can choose his own hours and every other week he chooses to work nights. It makes his job easier and he can get his job done faster, it is a win-win situation for him. It is a loss-loss for me.
First when he is working nights his sleep pattern is all messed up. Instead of getting a solid 7-8 hours of sleep he gets maybe 4 hours at most and then spends the rest of the day napping on the couch. This makes it hard to get anything done because our living room is in the center of our house and we have to tip toe around as to not wake him up. So for the week that he is on nights I am staying up later to get the housework done after he goes to work. Besides that he isn't sleeping well his attitude goes straight to hell. He is tired and grumpy and nothing anyone does is right. I have grown used to this and he does try to control his cranky mood. This week however we are both on edge.
We have this unspoken rule that only one of us gets to be cranky at a time. We broke that rule this morning. Him being tired mixed with me being stubborn has led to a not too pretty argument over our yearly vacation. I won't go into details because it was not friendly and neither of us were right but we were both stubborn. Now it is down to a battle of wills and unfortunately we are both going to loss. There is no scenario for our vacation that is going to make either of us happy and there are several scenarios that have us not vacationing together at all.
How do you solve no win situations at your house? Do you give in, or do you stick to your guns? There is no happy ending here and no matter how it works out I am going to loss, so now I need to decide which is the worse of the evils. Do I not go on my vacation or do I spend it with people that make me miserable?

Monday, April 26, 2010

Weekend Recap

Well the baseball game was not a repeat of our last visit. Our team lost but the game was a lot of fun except for the cold temperatures. Then Kris and I headed south for a visit with friends and an educational trip to an art museum. We were supposed to go to the zoo, but alas it was raining. It always rains when we go to the zoo, so we found another option and Kris loved it. He looked at everything and read all about all sort of interesting things. And I got to catch up with an old friend, it was wonderful. Best off all I got down there and back without getting lost once or missing any exits, I love my GPS.
The rest of the weekend was pretty much uneventful. I cleaned house and did laundry and finally finished watching a movie that I had started over a week ago. I have very little me time these days, and I am fine with that. But when it takes over a week to finish a movie and then I feel guilty about sitting there for two hours something has got to give. I realize that I do a lot for my family and that I need to take a little time for myself a little more often. Maybe after we finish baseball season I will get a chance, until then it will be running Kris up to the ball field every other day for the next 2 months. Oh well, I wouldn't change any of it.
All in all though, it was a great weekend. What did you do this weekend?

Friday, April 23, 2010

Lucky I love him.......

Tonight my family is starting a busy fun filled weekend. We are headed out to a local minor league baseball game this evening and tomorrow my son, Kris, and I will be heading to the zoo with some very dear friends of mine. I am pretty excited to be going to the baseball game tonight because last night started Kristopher’s summer baseball season. It really got me in the mood for sitting outside watching the game, so when I checked my email this morning and had a new email that there were still tickets for tonight’s game and that it was the mascot’s birthday I figured it must be fate. It instantly brought me back to our game night outing last year. It was the first time I had been to this ball field and we were supposed to meet friends to watch the game together. It was the start of a perfect summer evening until one of our friends got called into an emergency at work, our seats got messed up and we were not sitting together and my husband almost got hit with a foul ball. If that had been the height of our adventure I would have still called the night a success, but that my friend was just the beginning. I spent more of my time watching my son in the play area for the kids than watching the game and therefore left my husband unattended. An unattended husband who is surrounded by his friends is not a good thing. When I finally returned to him it was to find that he had more than his fair share of beer. Again not a super big deal since I was driving and I had not had a drop. So the game ended and I took my slightly inebriated husband and son out to a late dinner at a greasy spoon restaurant of my husband’s choosing. Here is where the night went straight into the toilet. After his less than healthy dinner we started for home. Me driving in the dark in an unfamiliar area, him singing away to the radio in his drunken state. Suddenly he says that he needs me to pull over. I told him I couldn’t due to traffic and he became even more insistent that I pull off the road. Thinking that he just has to relieve himself I ignore the request until I get to a more appropriate place to pull over, one where there is no other traffic. Instead of running into the woods to pee as I had been thinking he promptly throws up. Getting back into the truck to continue our ride home he looks over at me and seeing that I am more than a little annoyed he sheepishly grins and announces that he is pretty sure something he ate for dinner did not agree with him. Oh he is lucky I love him! Hopefully tonight is not a repeat performance.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Lucky he loves me...

So we have horribly slow dial up internet at our house. It is one of the draw backs to living in the country. I tend to use any other possible internet connection than the one at home. Everywhere else I go I can get faster service. My husband though is a salesman and spends the majority of his day in his truck driving around to his customers and therefore has no option but to use the dial up internet at home. Well he also likes to sit in his big comfy recliner and surf the internet while watching TV. It is beyond annoying but it keeps him happy and that is turn keeps the rest of us happy. Here is the bigger draw back, the phone cord is connected in the kitchen and he is sitting in the living room, therefore the phone cord is stretched from the kitchen through the dining room and across my living room floor. Do you see where I am going with this? I have three rooms that happen to be dead center of my house that are obstacle courses to cross for fear of tripping over the internet line. Usually I am really good about avoiding the cord, until yesterday. I was kinda frantically running through the house to get outside to go for a walk with my son and I ran through the living room and tripped on the cord and disconnected the internet. CRAP! I quickly plugged it back in, but it was too late, connection lost. My husband was pretty good about it, he complained slightly that one I should not be running through the house and two that I had my shoes on inside, but he was relatively calm about the whole thing. So I went for my walk and came home and went to the kitchen to get a drink of water when wouldn't ya know it, I tripped on that damn cord again. Well easy to say that my dear wonderful forgiving husband was beyond upset about it this time. He honestly believed that I had done that on purpose, I outwardly felt terrible for my second disconnect in an hour, but inwardly I was laughing, thinking ha! Now maybe you will upgrade our internet connection, or at the very least fix the phone outlet in the living room so that the cord doesn't drape across half the house. He finally got back to where he had been and continued to surf all the while grumbling about how I was sabotaging his nightly search for the boat of his dreams and I sat back in the chair silently giggling to myself that if I was really going to do something to purposely ruin his day that it would be a lot more fun that disconnecting his internet; that would just be the icing on the cake. And now that I think of it maybe it was.
I started out by making a really bad taco casserole recipe I found for dinner. Not that making a bad dinner is anything new at our house, the whole family is pretty sure that I am trying to poison them all. But this one was dreadful, even I couldn't talk myself into thinking it would be worth making again. Then I told him I was offered a new job, which most would think is good news, but it is farther from home, worse hours and less pay. I obviously didn't accept the position, and then I top it off with 2 disconnects. Maybe I am subconsciously trying to mess with him. Geez after last night I wonder what it will take to make tonight just as memorable? Maybe I will make him brownies to make up for last night, oh wait that would be sabotage since he is on a diet. :)
I guess I am pretty lucky he loves me.

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

Just Starting Out

Hi, how are you? Good, I am glad to hear it. You don't know me, but I hope that we can get to be friends. This is just me trying to figure my way through a busy, happy life. Come join me on the journey.
I have a busy life full of love, laughter and friends. I am a wife, mother, step-mother, sister, daughter, aunt, friend and co-worker. I am betting that we have something in common. I am hoping to be able to talk about the ups and downs of everyday life shuffling all the different hats I wear and having a great time along the way.
I have been reading blogs for years and I hope I can be as interesting and creative as all the excellent writers that I follow. It is always nice to know that there is someone out there going through the same things that I am. So feel free to comment, tell me what is on your mind. I can use all the advice I can get some days! And enjoy reading.